What Being Single Really Is Like?

Well at first it does not come as a beautiful experience like endless nights of cribbing over the past, talking out to your closed ones about your ex partner and explaining why both of you were not fit for each other and list goes on! In short post break up is not a smooth ride because it comes with tonnes of decision makings which one is not ready to make. 

It looks convenient to fall into the societal trap of never being single,yes you heard me right I am not saying that finding the right partner is wrong, but  all I am saying is that we are so used to being with someone that we do not take time to process our lives. 

Instead we hop onto from one relationship to another, we do not give ourselves the chance to heal, rather try to find someone else who could do it for us. That looks way more convenient. and why not? after all there is so many offers in the market I mean casual dating, serious relationship, one night hook ups or friends with benefits and fear not even people are also labeled as commodity, like the cute one, the handsome one, the sexy one, the hot one, the flirty one, the horny one and so you can like go out and pick any of the arrangement that suits you. Did you see what I did here? I just listed the most captivating world possible to you and it looked so fascinating and  you might think to yourself oh yeas I have definitely done this or that. But here is the thing, this is like a vicious cycle it never ends and it ends up making your life repetitive and monotonous. You may ask why? , then give me the honors.
While moving on from one to another what you forget about is the real world problems. You are so caught up into your own life that you do not really think about anything! not even your real self!. I know this is confusing. What I mean is going on dates or movies or anything really, makes you want to dress best, to look best, to be a good at conversations, from one date to another or from one person to another you just forget about your real worth. I am not saying that trying to search for the right person is wrong, honestly I am all up for it.
But do not forget about yourself in the process, learn about yourself,  know who you really are and do you even really like doing this or you are doing it because everyone else is doing it? do you want to end up living a life where high school problems take on your adult life and you miss out your own potential and ability to bring a change. To know what is going on in the world right now. I would be pretty honest with you when I was with someone I was a shallow person, I was so involved in it that I did not really care about what was happening around me or in fact in any part of the world and I do not blame anyone but myself for it. Being single gave me the time to know what a blessing and a responsibility it is to be a woman and how much there is to do in the world. This world does not need high school problems but needs a little bit of our time, if we could truly invest in it by helping other being kind to others being humble being true to our self and most importantly doing things that we really want to do.
Do not let the world bind you to make you do things that it calls normal do the extra ordinary be shameless and have the belief and trust upon your decisions. If you are having hard time finding the one to love  then why do not you spread love to the people around you and be a support. I am pretty sure nobody will be damaged.

What it takes to live a life when you have faced Failures and been into Depression

The journey of failing or depression not being that easy comes with a life full of challenges. It is not at all easy to live, not because you failed or were depressed but because the way people treat you after they know certain things about you. They call you out for your fallouts constantly ,remind you of where you were and may be also why you deserved to be there. Some will say you faked being in depression others would say you failed because you were meant to fail. They will lash out on you often ,for your past for all those wrong choices you made, for all those time you gave up and especially in a world where mental illness is a joke and not taken seriously it becomes really difficult to open up and survive, because constantly you will be reminded that you do not fit in or that you are not normal. You do not deserve to be alive the life you are living. Some people will tag you as rude or closed or stone hearted and some might even leave. People will have great difficulty to understand the person you are and the person you perspire to become.
But hey! nobody said it was easy right? the way I look at it is that have been the one who has faced depression and lot of failures you are the chosen one. You do not see everyone in your situation do you? your life is unique and different. It is not like everyone else's, which is why people will have hard time understanding you or your journey. But you have to know nobody can harm you until you let them. If one thing those rough times should teach then it should be that do not loose yourself so easy. It took a tug of war to fight those dark times and giving up on what people have to say, does not seem like worthy enough.
Yes they will come at you talk about your life like they knew how it felt like it was nothing but only you shall know its true worth. Now that you have finally come out of the dark zone you should be able to own to it and happily accept for what it was better or worst because it makes you the person you are. May be right now people around you do not understand but hey it is your life you are not living to get validation from others. Work on yourself everyday ! work on  to try to become better and better not that you are not good enough right now, but that this world is huge and has so many issues going on that is not going anywhere soon and your story is just a tiny part of it so why not contribute your tiny share to a better world. A world of hopes a world of no judgments a world full of admiration and positivity a world where you and me are no different we are just souls wandering for vast knowledge this universe hold a world where everyone has a shelter a voice and most importantly themselves.
We can do this only if we stop thinking about the petty issues others have to say.

#METOO

A movement that is started by a woman who was harassed at some point of her life and wants others to share it too as the world sees the magnitude of the harassment every woman goes through in her life time.

It is a great movement I am all up for it. I have not come across any single women who has never been harassed at any point of her life. But then why do they keep quiet? why are they not raising their voice. well let me tell you what goes through a woman's mind when she first comes across such an experience, we are built to first be alarmed by the very man who has been sending negative signals and when something bad occurs as a normal person would we want to raise voice and fight back. We want to shout and do something about it. Here comes the truth only a small potion of women are able to raise their voice whereas majority keeps calm and  try to forget the unforgetful event and blame their own self for it and who knows may be shut themselves forever. The harassment could take place in any manner, it could be physically and mentally.

It is easy for people to say that you should raise awareness and voice against such people, but then my question is who is listening to us? as soon as the news of the mishappening spreads the very first reaction that comes from it shame and pointing fingers at girls character, clothes, things she is into, it is like all her doings till that very day is being read and judged by many. All of a sudden everything changes. she is made to say goodbye to her old self and forced to become someone she did not sign up for. We live in a world where many people still blame women for the cause of such an event. we live in a world where women are given a set of instructions to follow to restrict herself to mark boundaries to be not completely free to be cautious every second to not be drunk to be not independent, and you know why? because this society has failed to raise MEN, instead they gave birth to a community that sees everyone less than them, where they are not taught how to behave in front of women how to respect women how to not feel any less manly if a woman is their boss how to know that they are equals and it is not the women that should taught but the very men.

SHE

She was born in a village, at the age of playing and reading books she was handed over utensils and tools of farming. She was not given lessons to go out and live in the world but she was given lessons to survive bad monsoon. When puberty hit her she was not told anything about her hygiene or how to deal with those mensuration cramps rather she was told that those days of the month made her impure for some kind. It almost felt like that having mensuration was her fault and not a gift from nature.
She was not given any right to decide for her life married off to a man who said yes to her, little did anyone ask if it was yes from her side. She was handed over to a man she did not know, never seen before however she was taught to serve him for life. She was taught to be a good wife and daughter in law, it looked like modern day slavery but how would she know ? books were unknown to her. She was expected to feel blessed because she was accepted by this Nobel man in spite of the fact that she was dark and rejected by many men before. She was made felt like rejected and tempered goods who someone took for heavy discounts.
Still she accepted her fate with a smile on her face. little did anyone know that they had given birth to a warrior a knight that was hard to defeat. She conquered everything that life threw on her. She gave life to dead. She became the power for weak the voice for unheard. She became the woman the society didn't raise her to yet she did it all.
But things were planned different for her. Fighting everything and winning  never gave her happiness you ask why? because society looked at her like a dominating woman, they looked at her who was crude and loud. Guess this society was not ready to accept woman with such intellect. They tried to take away her pride her health her confidence and most importantly her respect. She fought everything with great pride and strength and never gave up.
But this was the battle she signed up for that would take lifetime to end.

An Ode to My Oldself

An Ode to My Old self
Never knew the difference between being who I was earlier and what I had become in the past few months. I did not know if I was the same person anymore. What lead me here had no answer to it! everything in life made no sense. everyone around me noticed the change except me they would want to help but I would refuse to take help saying that I was fine and normal. in fact I took it as an offence when someone would try to point out the flaws in me-too coward to die and too courageous to live That was exactly my situation.
Then how did things change? what happened
Growing up as a kid I never faced failures I was always the brightest student in the class the one that shines bright. Things changed when I failed never in life seen refusal I did not exactly know how to deal with it and that if it was even okay to fail! everyone around me seem okay except me the feeling of failure was sinking in. However I did not do much to change it. This was just the beginning slowly moving on in life I face with failures multiple times! not only career wise but also at personal level. Everything somehow looked like illusion to me. It felt like everything was chanting to my failures, telling me that my life had no goals no reason to even live. the only thing that made sense to me was food. I found great escape in food, eating as till my stomach would refuse, eating at no fixed time. I just could not let go the habit. it took no longer for me when I finally broke down in front of my mother. I still remember that night, and to my surprise she told me it was okay for me to feel that way and we will get through this together. that was the very first time I felt normal. And as days passed I began to start writing down my feelings, somehow it gave me peace of mind to write what I felt like someone was reading it, like someone could actually understand what I was going through. that is when I started to search for motivational videos and stories, I just wanted to get inspired.
Life was not fair to me that was the only reason I gave to myself and others that would ask me about my failures. Tt was finally time to accept that I was suffering from depression. yes I was mentally ill! and yes I am very much normal like you. I look very human like there is nothing alienating about me. nothing alarming about me I am what iam. The very step for me to was to accept help and to know that I was in depression and that there was nothing to be ashamed about it.
One of the major causes of depression turned suicidal is the negligence and the way we deal with depression. You will not find any school or college book talking about mental illness or find doctors that are qualified this deal with this situation. In fact the society is built in such a way that depression is often symbolised at being weak, someone who cannot tackle difficult situation, we are often made to hide the fact that we are in depression and to act like it never happened.
We are told to act confident and bold otherwise no company would hire us nobody will want to work with us. I have not read many articles talking about corporate companies giving mental sickness leave or having any policy that would protect employees having mental illness or even any good study institution that will be willing to take a patient of depression.
Why is there is such a barrier why are we running away from it? why are asked to hide it.
I have been through depression and I overcame it. it was not an easy journey for me. It was more or less a learning experience for me. and one of the most important thing I realised during depression was that the very first step to overcome it is to acknowledge the presence of depression in your life. We often live in denial saying to ourselves that depression is for cowards it is for others and not me. We suppress our true emotions resulting it to block our true selves at such a level that it might lead to suicide. Secondly talk it out, talk to someone who is close to you fear not to seek help. Mental illness is just like physical illness it does not make you harmful/bad/not normal person it just makes you who you are and there is nothing wrong in being who you are. Go out , indulge yourself into physical activities and eat healthy,talk about you experience  to others become more and more aware about it. and if required take medication for it, those medication will not harm your brains.
Now two most asked question why me? and what if I relapse again?
Well there is no answer for why you! it is an illness and can happen to anybody, however dome people deal with it smartly and seek help at early stage thereby stopping it there and then and for other they keep hiding it for life long and out busting it with a mental breakdown.one cannot be characterised as weak if they suffer from depression I would rather say people wo overcome depression are the bravest of all kind, why? simply because they have outlived the roughest and darkest phase of their lives and they know how it feels to be there so they very well also know how to deal with it and do not forget it took them real courage to come out as a patient of mental illness.
now is there a possibility of it to relapse again? people who have suffered from depression always fear about relapsing to it again, however such a situation can be overcome by getting routine checkups on time and most importantly by indulging oneself into healthy habits. No illness is completely curable they all have a slight chance of recurrence, but there is no illness that cannot be fought. At last I want to urge everyone of you if you are reading this spread this message wide, help people around you suffering from depression and let them know they can get through this. We are in this together.

What Is Depression?

What is depression to you? what are the symptoms of depression? how to cure it? how can it happens? does it make you unfit? what age are you more prone to have depression?
Searching for the answers to these questions I come across so many articles, so many researches, so many words that I cannot understand. May be it is just me who does not understand the technical words.
Whatever it is I cannot deny that there is an urgent need to come together and work onto resolve this matter. Around 350 million people are suffering from depression which is almost 5 % of the population of the earth and mind it this statistics talk only about those who have acknowledged that they are in depression, there are many out there who either do not accept it or are unaware about it. How do we help those who are unaware about what depression is? well one of the things you could do is to use your social circle to talk more often about depression and try to spread awareness about it in easy understandable language. The month of October is dedicated to the mental awareness week and one can always celebrate these days by sharing on you social profiles and in schools/workplace/home.
Secondly, How do we convince those who do not want to accept that depression can happen to them too and that it is okay. Well to those people try asking them one question, Do you want to be happy and liberated?  let them know that accepting what they are going through will be a life changing experience for them and that they are not the only one who is in such a situation, failure or rejections or disappointments all of us have faced it.
One of the most important thing that you should know before addressing someone in depression is to let them know that they are not alone in this and it is perfectly normal to feel the way they feel. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of, it can happen to anyone, as a matter of fact I encourage you to talk fearlessly about it ( only when you are ready to ), this might help others going through same situation the strength to fight as it will act as a at of hope for them.
Most of the people think depression is not a real illness, some thinks that it makes them look like a coward. Most of the people think so because of the lack of awareness and knowledge. Like any other illness depression is also one, it does not make you any less humane or less knowledgeable or less attractive, it is a part of you and nothing more than that, and till you face it, it will keep haunting you and making you weak so I would suggest just face it once for all and breakdown and accept defeat and seek help. If seeking doctors help when you have some injury is normal then why not going to psychiatrist when in depression normal? It is all in the mindset and nothing else.
Now below are some questions that can help you identify if you are in depression:
Do  you question existence, your purpose or aim in life,
Do you have suicidal thoughts?
Do you find being at home alone more convincing because then you will not have to face anyone or answer any questions.
Do you find yourself alone at the inside of your mind like none can understand what your situation is.
Do you feel that you are better dead than living?
If yes, then  you might want to seek help and discuss the matter. There is nothing to worry about,  it is like every other normal disease out there which is highly underrated yet curable when known. You are not alone in this, it might seem like it but really you are not. Your thoughts are with you and most importantly your soul that none can take away from you until you give it up. You need to know that there is no light without darkness, and you have to get through this phase to get into a brighter place and it will be all worthwhile. You have to fight back and tell yourself because your life matters. There are so many great examples of people  who overcame depression and now are changing the world because now that they have faced their darkest fear they have nothing to be worried about and now they are stronger than ever.
It is not a one day process, rather it is a process that never stops,everyday you build yourself, thrive to become better and become stronger. Do not run away and despise yourself. Rather own up to your mess like a Boss.

Love like never before

Love is unconditional, love is inspiring, love is hope, love is faith, love never dies , love never fades.Which is why it is the best feeling in the world, there is nothing like love. My love for my parents taught me the real meaning of love which is why I don't have romantic posts, not because I don't believe in romance or I have some heartbreaking story. For me love is old fashioned it is not about heartbreaks, lies , betrayal but about sacrifices, constant support, about happy endings where we have so much to learn. It is surely nothing like valentine's day rather it is about mutual understandings about failing on expectations but then love is all about second chances isn't it

Also with time I realised that love is natural , you cannot ask or request anyone to love you back just because you love them. Then why are investing time on it I am not asking you to stop loving anyone what I am asking you is to love your closed ones but most importantly love yourself more. Do not forget to admire yourself for all the flaws you have . Love doesn't has to be romantic but it can surely be motivating. The power lies with you. To live with a broken heart trying to forcefully fill it with other or to mend that broken heart with all the love you can.

Chapter 3

Diary Of Not So Complicated Girl

Thinking about her day,  she thought to herself why is it everyone obssessed with money? why do I have to bow down and treat everyone with respect whereas they treat me harshly. Why me and my family have to be ashamed of who we are and what we do for living or where we live and what we eat?
The little girl Kiara thought to herself. I hate this world she said and went back to sleep.
The very next day she went to the doctor's clinic where her mother worked. As soon as she reached there she stood outside the clinic as she had strict rules regarding the posh clinic and its clients. So little girl Kiara stood next to the gate under the unbearable heat of the sun again cursing the world and its rules.Playing with her hairs she caught herself looking at the huge black car and the most posh woman she had ever seen Dr.Zubeda. Staring at her she failed to realise that Miss.Posh Doctor had caught her looking at the car and her shoes, Zubeda stopped and asked her if she was lost and to that Kiara innocently replied about the rules her mother had told her, listening to the girl Zubeda smiled and held her hand and took her inside the clinic. As soon as she entered the clinic Kiara's mother was surprised and got worried if her little girl was in some sort of trouble, reading the face of the cleaning lady Zubeda said, don't worry I caught this cute looking princess smiling and I could not resist but to bring her in. Listening to her Kiara felt loved and belonged for the very first time, never had someone so rich treated her like this, may be the world was not that of a bad place she thought to herself. Why is that nobody ask anyone how rich they are from heart ? or what do they wear in their manners or where do they go to find respect or live in peace? where do people earn respect? why does my mother have to respect everyone and in return get nothing but insult. Zubeda was struck listening to her words and to see how every word she said held depth.
Zubeda took the girl and made her sit on her lap and holding her hand said ...
To Be CONTINUED

Uncomfortably Comfortable

I spent years of my precious life thinking that I was not perfect! Being uncomfortable if I am not able to answer in the class, to not get scores in tests, to have a belly instead of abs, to have stretch marks instead of smooth skin or to be so short that every single person looked like Goliath to me. Like really! I could not figure out a way to stop this feeling, to not feel unhappy with whoever I was. I somehow had found my idols in this world and was blindly in hopes of following them to become like them. And to be honest there is nothing wrong to become like your idol or even to try to become like them. What is wrong,  is to trying to replicate them, you see all of us are different from one another yes ! you heard me right billions of human present on the surface of earth all are different from one another we can match certain qualities but the degree of those qualities will be different. You have to understand that the qualities of your idol might be something you want to possess but you have to imbibe them with your persona. Give it your own shape only then you can become the best version of yourself. I tried to be perfect whether it was studies, looks, social life or family but I failed terribly in all of the areas of my life and it was not because I was not trying but because I was trying to mould myself to become a person I was not. I tried to fit myself in the society to become friendly, to become obedient , to become a scholar but all of these qualities were not just me. Now you would think why? Let me help you why, for me becoming perfect was becoming like someone I thought was perfect and not myself. I was trying hard but I was trying hard to replicate a figure, which ended up making me uncomfortable in many areas of my life. It took me a long time to understand that becoming like someone did not mean to copy them but to learn from them the art of acknowledging yourself the way you are. To accept yourself , your flaws, your power and trying everyday to enhance them, thriving to become better.
It has got nothing to do with your clothes, color , stretch marks, looks, scores ,social life or financial aid. It was about how you reflected your values, how you helped a person in need especially when they were a stranger to you. It is about being yourself and not being ashamed ( NOT ASHAMED, old post reference) . Everything you are is what defines you as a person be it your failures/success, beauty/stretch marks, average student/ scholar. It is who you are and to be comfortable with whoever you are is an important step if you want to discover yourself.

Days Of A Not So Complicated Girl

Introduction

It was a casual day just like any other the sun was going down and the moon was coming up and as she lied down on her bed she realised the times she had been lied upon so all of a sudden she sits thinking that she would never be lied upon. And started to think to herself if she had done this this , was there a chance that she wouldn't be left alone? what could be the possibility for her to be not alone just like right now in the mere future, what if this was the reality of her life with which she had to live for the rest of her life. She looked out of the window near her bed and gazed to the stars and thought to herself this is the same sky every human on this earth is sharing with me the stars the moon the clouds then why cant someone share their time and interests with me? why in spite of having so many social media platforms she was all alone and in spite of having thousands of followers friends she did not have someone to talk to but herself? was it the beginning of her adulthood? or her inability of understanding the world.

Chapter 2

Survived another night and welcoming a new morning. Even when the sun was at its best the light did not feel bright enough to lighten the room, with one eyes opened and the other closed  she woke up that morning from the sleepless night she had, she sighed morning again! It almost felt like the light of the sun was causing pain in her eyes and the hustle of the world was unbearable to watch. Somehow watching people made her feel more lonely than she was, however she had to live by the day! Sticking to her routine and following it blindly another day passed , and Alas! once again night had approached and she was feeling more of herself and there was sudden energy and happiness that was all over her mind.
Looking at the moon and the darkness that came by it she thought to herself how can anyone be scared of the dark? isn't darkness the only thing in the world that soothes you, that gives you peace, in the dark everything is still, everything is beautiful. Thinking that she felt petty on others who could not understand the beauty of the night time. As the clock was ticking she began to think of all the things that had happened during the day and somehow every detail of the day started to come back to her even the ones she thought was of no importance, and as she listened to those repeated songs of the same playlist feeling every word by the heart ,she said to herself Zubeda its no big deal! people are meant to be this complicated it is alright if you don't understand them.
As she was trying hard to console herself but deep down she felt she was at fault, that may be it wasn't others this whole time but her. But then why didn't she change herself? was she too stubborn to change for good? or was she too weak to stand up for good?

Spreading smiles
In this vast universe of diverse living animals how often do we come across the human species? and then to not to complicate it further how often do we come across the different kinds of human sapiens?
Now you will wonder what? let me take it step by step, as everyday comes and goes with your choice or without it you come across hundreds of people, now you would think I talk to only handful of people in a day or I don't think so or what is this girl talking about? but if you come out of your zone and look to the right and the left to the skies and the ground your feet is touching every particle of this world is connected to the aura of the person that passed by it. We never see it we never know them but we can feel it, just like you can know when you sit at some table in a fast food chain you always have two kinds of tables either clean or either still having the remains of the food someone ate there before you , in our busy lives we might not consider it as something that catches our attention but definitely this surely tells about the aura of the person who has been there before. We knowingly or unknowingly affect others even  the small things you do that you think is nothing, somehow it is like the decision you make everyday either to influence someone to do better or to do worst. You might not know but your small gesture like offering someone needy your seat or helping someone cross the road or just telling someone that they can do it or telling someone they deserve to be happy or to offer someone water who knows how long this list can go? but the bottom line is everyday when you wake up till the moment you fall asleep you make choices, choice to wish others good morning, choices to make someone smile, choices that you don't know can affect someone can give a ray of hope to someone. You don't know if the person sitting next to you in the train or standing in the queue at some fast food chain or someone around you might be going through a real hard time may be depression may be your act of generosity, kindness ,thankfulness brightness positivity ignites a tiny flame of hope in them to do better, to think positive, to have faith , to believe in themselves. So as your days passes by don't forget to be not rude, we all can have bad days bad times but don't you remember watching a kid enjoying his freedom in the rain or an elder man giving you blessing or some stranger passing you a wide smile wishing you a good day gave you the strength to live by those times.

Will you be my valentine?
Usually around this year pressure is at its peak. If you are single then you feel more lonely and if you are dating someone you feel coerced to buy the best unique and never gifted before gift ignoring all the facts like what one actually needs or what could actually make their life smoother or the fact that none of this is a measuring scale of your love. We have certainly succeeded in making a superficial day an important validation for our emotions that we hold for specially our partners. But why? Why only our partners? Why gifting? Why only this day?
Don't be that person who needs a particular day to express their love for someone. Dont be that person who knows only one meaning of love . Dont be the person who needs society's validation infact their partners validation too (because if your partner genuinely loves you , you won't have to try to get validation) . Hold depth , broaden your horizon . Spread love and affection everyday not only to your partner but to everyone that you come across everyday. Pass a smile, be generous, be kind , be respectful. Dont believe only in receiving but also giving , gift people you love your faith , your understanding, your time , your trust. Then you wont need a day to strengthen your bond or to express your feelings .

What is a women empowerment?
Is it working at odd hours or working at a powerful position or working as a housewife?  In our daily lives we come across a lot of articles talking about it but I believe it is more of flackery than it was really about! This movement is  about the inner strength that every woman holds, the light of knowledge that can ignite the world with great spirits. It is more about choosing to be whatever they want to become even if it means homemaker. It is about embracing womanhood and encouraging and letting other women know too that they are worth it, even if they don't hold any qualified degree they still have a lot to offer to the coming generation because their experience says it all. Whether from giving birth to a baby or to getting married to a man and accepting a whole new world with a smile or to become a perfect mother or to become a strict parent she knows it all. This power is about not treating a women on mensuration any different instead showing respect to their spirit , about how they work with same stamina throughout even when they are having hormonal imbalance. This movement it not only restricted to education but also body type, a woman to be able to dress whatever way she wants, to choose any body type she wants, to get her hairs coloured or to have no hair at all. Everything should be her own choice and not something this society expects her to be like. People body slam women for not having thigh gaps or for having flabs of fat or stretch marks and still willing to wear swim suits. The society needs to stop pressurising women to be the perfect image because apart from the gender we are humans too! and darling we want to make mistakes a lot of them and learn from them not judged? But can a woman afford to make a mistake? will she be given another chance? a chance to not be so perfect?
Everyone wants to talk about powering woman but what about teaching not only men but some women too that woman can commit mistakes, they can be drunk at night but you are not supposed to take her advantage instead act sober and make her reach home safely, to stop looking at woman as a sex object and rather try to know her in depth, get to know her from the inside, the person she is not just her body, that raising a baby is not only her duty but his too, that adding someone's surname after their name is not only two words joined together but two relations that have to be equally balanced and to keep it balanced is his and hers duty. We are so much caught up in this movement that we fail to recognize the one in a million man that we might have met in our lives. This movement is not about hating a particular gender or fighting over who gets the best but about equality and it can only prevail if both the sides do their part.

Trying to fit in

Nobody tells you to be yourself, to be comfortable being you. They all try to make u fit into the rules or conditions this society has made for you. They expect you to look hot or to look decent  or to be intellectual or to be a topper or to be sophisticated and certainly they don't look for a change or regarded as imperfection.They fit u into a category of certain colour or gender  or religon and expect you to behave accordingly and somehow you are able to convince yourself that this is you! This how you should be or should feel like. If you had a heartbreak you should be sad or at rage, if u failed in academics you should feel sobby, feel bad about yourself. Nobody tells you to be not so sophisticated or to be crazy  or not to do certain stuff simply because you are not into it. As per them if you don’t agree to their norms which the so educated and know it all society has already built that are  so rigid that one can think of iron as flexible item but not the rules they got for you, you will be an example of imperfection at utmost. Don’t end up living a life which you did not choose for yourself which doesn’t consider your happiness. Is it worth giving up who you really are for something so small that doesn’t consider you as an individual but considers you as one of the sheeps in flock. Break the stereo type . Be weird be boring be entertaining be that not so sophisticated lady or that emotional man because after all we make the society not the society makes us.

Damaging oneself!

Most of us have the habit of over thinking and, now please dont say that you think real and practical scenarios because let us be real the stories you weave when you are deep into thinking didn't even existed untill you started thinking about your so called practical situations. Sitting idol lets think, lying down not sleepy lets think, got a situation to face lets think! we probably have this mindset that if we think deeper about our problems we will solve them effeciently and also the fact that thinking deep makes us wise! but let us be real, none of the above situation is helpful! why? because thinking your decisions through and thinking till you start thinking off topic are way two different things. You see when you are deep into thinking you give rise to various situations that would not even happen and are highly hypothetical and came to your mind probably because of the things you watch or see. None of it will help you in any way! here is why, firstly you are thinking of things that are not even real so high chances are they are not even gonna happen; secondly, you have a situaton to face and all you are doing is think and not work so high chances are you will end up making the problem bigger because you were busy solving the issues in your brain that did not ever happened; thirdly, when your current situation is not solved how will your future which you think you are taking care of be fine?and lastly you are damaging yourself in a way you don't even know yourself!
Now here is how to handle such situations, dont sit idle  hustle harder, make every second count not by thinking  but by doing things in short! work it out. When you have situations to face dont think about things that may happen as its consequence but face it! come up with alternative solutions and keep trying. When you are not sleepy then do something productive build yourself in that free time because let us be real when it comes upon building yourself you probably have never done that because you are here thinking of scenarios instead of working it out! Come out with things you want to work on about yourself. Time is not going to stop for anyone of us, so do not waste it by just thinking. Don't stop yourself from becoming the best version of yourself and let us be practical none of us are living perfect lives we all are fighting our own fights, not everytime is going to be a happening time which is why it is said that to die is easy but to live is hard , so now you have  a choice to make to yourself wether you want to kill every moment that you live by thinking or kill this life by standing up to situations and fighting your way through.

Perfecting Imperfection

From childhood it is embedded within us to chase after perfection, for instance when you get 9.5 your parents would ask you where did that 0.5 mark go? or in a relationship when as soon as the rough phase comes, we just start playing blame game and then blame it all upon the messy love theories for not having perfect relationship or when it comes to our career we chase after being at the top.
In this chase of life we often forget ourselves, we forget to live our lives. We spent most of our life being like our idols. We chase for perfection when being perfect is all about finding true selves, facing the rough phase, accepting failures and embracing the flaws. It is about to not blindly follow something because the society  expects you to be like it or trying hard to become like someone. Be who you are , wake up everyday and admire yourself, accept all the wrong decisions you made, stand up to face the  consequences. Stop running ,stop following something that society has already built  for you and just take a break. Just give some days to yourself ,discover your own self. It may sound uncanny like? who have I been living as ? it sounds funny to me too because I am like oh c'mon I bought that stuff according to my likes or I did so because I wanted to. But just think deeper, didn't  you chose certain subject because that is what you were expected to do. And I find it very judging because as soon as you stop living the way society expects you to all of a sudden you sound strange to them and insensible, which is why very few of us have the courage to become ourselves, to be proud about all those mistakes , those disappointing situations. We are ever ready to accept favourable results happily with a pride in fact we show it off!.Don't live a life that was made for you or expected of you, step out of the zone, live for yourself make your decisions! yes major ones too,make mistakes learn from them ,own it ! after all life is all about discovering our super complicated souls. And know this bad or good decisions you make learn from them, success or failure learn to take it with a pride, hustle but not according to what others have to say but as per yourself.

new year new me?

I have done this a couple of times taken  resolution that I am going to change myself or I am going to do this and not become that person I was or used to be. I mean tonnes of resolutions. It took me real long time to realise none of this matters no 1st January is going to be a new year or a new beginning for me until I realise from within that everyday can be a new day,every morning can  be  a bright morning if I want it to be. All I have to do is commit to myself, to fall completely in love  with myself to admire each and every imperfections I have ,to not find  new reasons everyday to love someone else instead become that someone else.All of this time I was investing myself on different things.I tried to find the missing piece of my puzzle in someone else's and I constantly failed, I failed terribly to make them happy or to be happy myself  and the day I stopped trying to do so they left, leaving me to think over and over again why would someone leave? just because I stopped trying so hard to make them happy? no it wasn't the reason. It was because I did not love myself. I did not realize that I was that missing piece of my puzzle, only I could make myself happy. Only I could fill in my insecurities. Nobody can love you until you love yourself nobody will respect you until you respect yourself people will tell you that you are fat, ugly , not lovable, not sweet, not caring and infinite things but nothing can affect you, if you know that you are perfect, even that broken piece that stays within you is beautiful,to take pride in failures, to embrace yourself , to be confident to show your crazy side. The day you start admiring yourself  everyday is going to be a new day every midnight is going to be new years midnight and then you will not have to wait for 31st December to find your new self or make new resolutions rather you will be discovering your new side every day of your life.Then everyday will add on to the chapter of your life.