A note to an Older Self

Hey There!
As this year is coming to an end I have so much that I am grateful and thankful for.
This year has taught me so many lessons that I cannot be enough thankful for. I learnt to let go, that not everything in life can be planned and controlled. Sometimes it is okay to take the break from all the hustle and sit back and just relax, to take time and be proud of how far you have come. It is great to be hard working and ambitious but its good to always take some time off the grid, to take one step at a time. I took around 6 trips this year and every trip left an embark in me, gave me a new perspective and that every time I came back from the trip I was rejuvenated with so much of positivity and energy.
I have always found myself caged in the idea of age and time, but you know what? it's okay if you are unlike any other or that your purpose in life to get there is taking time, just know that you will get there eventually and when you do time will hold no value because all that will matter is that moment, the very moment when you will feel that joy and peace in your heart.
And the most important lesson of all the power of kindness and love, is close to my heart. I try to be as kind and loving as I can be to others but I would often ignore it
for my own self. In this life we are so busy loving others and the idea of love that we often forget that love has to start from oneself. That what you reap inside of
you shall come out of you either from mouth or actions, who cares. So lets plant the seed of love and kindness inside, lets be and to ourselves when things go wrong,when someone leaves or when you are having a bad day, lets be loving to all of our self ,our body, our imperfections, our insecurities, to let go of all that is holding you back from being who you really are. Trust me you cannot love or be kind to others if you are not to your own self.
Towards the end I don't believe in new years but what I do believe in, is the idea of new chances, new opportunities, new outlook for life, new connections.
So much love
Bhargavi Rana

Feminism at it's best.

Don't you have a brother? and why not? question that has haunted me for years. Initially growing up this question meant nothing but repetitively started to bother me. Well thanks to those people I started to question to myself why am I being asked this? how does it even matter if I do not have a brother. In that journey I made myself believe that I should aim on becoming the Son my parents never had. But thanks to y inquisitive mind I still wasn't satisfied I started to read and read educate myself. The deeper I got into it I realised that responsibilities have got nothing to do with my gender that even being a daughter I can still make my father proud, I can still access education to any limit I want and grow up becoming my own person.
Then comes the hottest compliment of all time, you are a Feminist and trust me it is in a tone like it is something foul. A lot of people associate feminism with pulling men down from their current status in the society, taking away their say and rights and giving women whatever they want overlooking justice and equality.
Honestly, for such people I have only one thing to say you all believe in it because you have been doing this to women which is why they have a reason to believe that Feminism is all about it, I do not blame them honestly. Though it shocks and  also concerns me that this is not just happening around me or in my country but worldwide, women have faced and continue facing such issues, even highly developed countries have such issue. What can be done? I ask myself everyday.
Here is what I strongly believe especially facing situations first handedly that the word feminism is too small to contain all of it, I see it more of as a revolution that is evolving with years passing by. Feminism in simple terms mean the liberty for being whatever and whoever I want to be, to split the check, to be ambitious, to share responsibilities to be liberal, to date men and not being judged, to make my own sexual decisions and not be judged or call out for it. and most importantly to not suppress or be suppressed by any gender rather build a community that embraces my choices with no regards to my gender.
All I ask as a women is to be open to the change, to equality, to a community where a women can be more intelligent and sharper than you, to embrace a woman who is bold or shy to a bad ass working mom or a homemaker. To build a community of equal opportunities ,wellbeing  and pay.
Let us educate ourselves before we pass any opinions.
Have an open mind!