Choices like a Robot

We have only one life and most of us spend it by choosing same things again and again. We think it is in our best interest. But by doing so you confine yourself , you somehow stop yourself to explore different possibilities. I know that not all of the possibilities are positive but then not all the possibilities are negative and when we will choose something that turns out bad we gain experience and also we can aware others about it and  if it turns out good we will be proud of ourselves  looking at it this way will be more encouraging.

Here is my part of story , I spent years with a friend thinking she will show up in every step of my life, thinking that I don't need anybody else because I had one power bank but little did I know that this life is full of uncertainties and that we all sometimes break our promises, even pinky promises. And when things turned ugly I realized that all those years I confined my world to her and didn't really had anyone else to call as friend and  I had to start all over again. I learnt life's biggest lesson and that was,  we live in a very vast world full of options we choose from daily. But with our mind so set on that one single thing we think is perfect for us we have forgotten how crucial is it for us to make the right choice. Do not confine yourself let yourself loose and breathe the fresh air try new things make different choices everyday. Open up yourself form your own self. Life is too short to live it like a robot set to same lifestyle .

Not Ashamed

I spent a part of my teenage years being ashamed of who I was, what my color was like, what my behavior was like. It was not me who was actually ashamed but people forcing me to think so and you know worst of it I let them make me believe I was that bad.
I still remember my friend being upset after a guy passed on a comment on her body figure and therefore refused to be friend with her ! It took me really long to figure out that she wasn't the one with the flaw but they were, not because they were dark or too smart but because they had a broken vision.You know why that other person affects your mind? it is because somehow you had that little insecurity within you and now that someone pointed it out, you all of sudden start thinking it is true!
So here is the truth, yes you are not perfect and so is nobody, all of us have something in our lives that we are bad at,  something that we feel insecure about and it is okay to have it.
Don't hold on to what someone has told you about 'YOU' .
At the end of the day it is your life your matter your decisions. Nobody takes perfect decisions we all fail many atimes but it is important to accept it and look at it with a positive aspect. Don't let anyone tell you that you are not good enough we don't come to this one life to please others but to lease our self. So if next time someone tells you that you are not good looking or you make a lot of mistakes tell them " I am not Ashamed " because I learn and make mistakes everyday.Dont let anyone make you live the life they think is perfect rather live your life on your own terms.

Runner

I was a runner
I chose to ran away from pain , failures, rejections, my fears and you know what? you can run miles and miles away from everything but it will only just get worst you may think you have conquered it but actually what you did is what actually ostrich does when they think someone will hunt them that is they dig their heads underground thinking nobody will see them but little do they know that by blinding yourself and fool own self and nobody else!
Many of us spend our lives running away from truth, from reality and yet losing many things behind.
We choose to not confront some really important issues of our lives and when you are so busy at running you loose something really important and that is time! we loose a lot of time and that too on weakening our inner self ! yes you heard me , when you are trying so hard to hide yourself away from pain , fear, truth you weaken yourself you develop insecurities and you start thinking that everyone and everything in the world is trying to pinch you on your wound.
All of us have failed, all of us have had rejections, all of us have gone through some really bad times so what are you afraid about ? what are you ashamed of? why are you running?
stop!! stop yourself from running and face the reality face what is in front of you it may pain for a while but trust me it will make u stronger and all that time you could have been running now you could use that to build your own self
We all have our shares of dark nghts, choice is yours, for how long are you willing to close your eyes out of fear or are you ready to even see in the dark
The choice is yours

SACRIFICE

What is sacrifice?Is it when you let your sister take the last piece of chocolate? or is it when you let your partner change you?

Everyone of us have sacrificed and gave up things we loved things we wanted ,for someone we love sometimes even because someone forced us. But the question is for whom shall we sacrifice? how do we know it is the right person.As far as I can remember I have scraficed a lot but mostly for wrong people. And when you sacrifice for the wrong person you let go a part of yourself with that sacrifice and something you can never bring back. People may say that person who sacrifice is the one who has big heart but only few knows the one who sacrifices is the one killing his so called big heart everytime he sacrifices. He may not tell you but he is dying for you to say that its ok don't sacrifice I am ready to do this time for you.

How many of you have ever stopped someone from letting go something for you? Is it the only way one can show how much they love you? And trust me when you will tell someone don't sacrifice it for me just see the smile on their faces that piece of their heart they were letting go becomes more fuller and that sacrifice becomes the bond of your relationship

Happiness

Is happiness really our choice?
We all have come across a lot of quotes telling us that happiness is our choice, it is like a decision we choose to make every second of the day, to be happy or not.
But then this brings us on to a question,If it really is a choice or a decision we make , then why are  some people feel upset, why are we not all feeling the same? Why would anyone want to choose to be not happy. Isn't being happy a good feeling. Why suffer from anxiety, depression, insecurity, jealousy , any other negative emotion? why does it feels like a never ending quest a struggle for life to fight to be happy.
I am asking you to take a moment to pause and analyse as to what you truly are feeling as an emotion in any situation. Are you in control as to what you feel? or is it something that comes naturally to you.Very few of us know happiness also has its stages, one could call them Phases Of Joy. We all tend to think of happiness as a simple phenomena, but it is as complicated as any other word, it really is. Happiness the emotion we can feel in various situations and in varied ways, one can be when we are a little satisfied about something, such an emotion can last for minutes or hour, then there is happiness that we earn forever it has a lifelong impression, and somewhere in middle is happiness that we often ignore and end up taking for granted.
Coming back to square one, Is really happiness an option, Well it is rather the choice we let ourselves see. With every situation hitting us up on daily basis we have to either choose to look at the darker side or at the brighter side. To either be upset about it or be happy. Now the catch here is you can feel any of the emotions and it wont change a thing, but what will really decide the future course will be how you learn and grow from the challenges you face every second. I mean all of us have different ways to react to situations, however we should all focus on as to what can we do later on, the remedy, the conclusive of that event. Are we moving on learning nothing or are we taking our lessons.

1st post

let me start by saying hello!
hello everyone
i am a bit nervous since it is my first blog , words dont come to my mind easily!
i had millions of words in mind to write but now all i feel is like a small baby going to his school figuring out what school is like
i never thought i would ever write! but ever since i lost almost everything these words are the only thing i trust and comforting.
when the darkness of night takes away your sleep all you have songs played repeatedly and words to write.
that is what my blog will be about.
i hope you all like it and that somehow in some way connect with me
thank you