What Being Single Really Is Like?

Well at first it does not come as a beautiful experience like endless nights of cribbing over the past, talking out to your closed ones about your ex partner and explaining why both of you were not fit for each other and list goes on! In short post break up is not a smooth ride because it comes with tonnes of decision makings which one is not ready to make. 

It looks convenient to fall into the societal trap of never being single,yes you heard me right I am not saying that finding the right partner is wrong, but  all I am saying is that we are so used to being with someone that we do not take time to process our lives. 

Instead we hop onto from one relationship to another, we do not give ourselves the chance to heal, rather try to find someone else who could do it for us. That looks way more convenient. and why not? after all there is so many offers in the market I mean casual dating, serious relationship, one night hook ups or friends with benefits and fear not even people are also labeled as commodity, like the cute one, the handsome one, the sexy one, the hot one, the flirty one, the horny one and so you can like go out and pick any of the arrangement that suits you. Did you see what I did here? I just listed the most captivating world possible to you and it looked so fascinating and  you might think to yourself oh yeas I have definitely done this or that. But here is the thing, this is like a vicious cycle it never ends and it ends up making your life repetitive and monotonous. You may ask why? , then give me the honors.
While moving on from one to another what you forget about is the real world problems. You are so caught up into your own life that you do not really think about anything! not even your real self!. I know this is confusing. What I mean is going on dates or movies or anything really, makes you want to dress best, to look best, to be a good at conversations, from one date to another or from one person to another you just forget about your real worth. I am not saying that trying to search for the right person is wrong, honestly I am all up for it.
But do not forget about yourself in the process, learn about yourself,  know who you really are and do you even really like doing this or you are doing it because everyone else is doing it? do you want to end up living a life where high school problems take on your adult life and you miss out your own potential and ability to bring a change. To know what is going on in the world right now. I would be pretty honest with you when I was with someone I was a shallow person, I was so involved in it that I did not really care about what was happening around me or in fact in any part of the world and I do not blame anyone but myself for it. Being single gave me the time to know what a blessing and a responsibility it is to be a woman and how much there is to do in the world. This world does not need high school problems but needs a little bit of our time, if we could truly invest in it by helping other being kind to others being humble being true to our self and most importantly doing things that we really want to do.
Do not let the world bind you to make you do things that it calls normal do the extra ordinary be shameless and have the belief and trust upon your decisions. If you are having hard time finding the one to love  then why do not you spread love to the people around you and be a support. I am pretty sure nobody will be damaged.

What it takes to live a life when you have faced Failures and been into Depression

The journey of failing or depression not being that easy comes with a life full of challenges. It is not at all easy to live, not because you failed or were depressed but because the way people treat you after they know certain things about you. They call you out for your fallouts constantly ,remind you of where you were and may be also why you deserved to be there. Some will say you faked being in depression others would say you failed because you were meant to fail. They will lash out on you often ,for your past for all those wrong choices you made, for all those time you gave up and especially in a world where mental illness is a joke and not taken seriously it becomes really difficult to open up and survive, because constantly you will be reminded that you do not fit in or that you are not normal. You do not deserve to be alive the life you are living. Some people will tag you as rude or closed or stone hearted and some might even leave. People will have great difficulty to understand the person you are and the person you perspire to become.
But hey! nobody said it was easy right? the way I look at it is that have been the one who has faced depression and lot of failures you are the chosen one. You do not see everyone in your situation do you? your life is unique and different. It is not like everyone else's, which is why people will have hard time understanding you or your journey. But you have to know nobody can harm you until you let them. If one thing those rough times should teach then it should be that do not loose yourself so easy. It took a tug of war to fight those dark times and giving up on what people have to say, does not seem like worthy enough.
Yes they will come at you talk about your life like they knew how it felt like it was nothing but only you shall know its true worth. Now that you have finally come out of the dark zone you should be able to own to it and happily accept for what it was better or worst because it makes you the person you are. May be right now people around you do not understand but hey it is your life you are not living to get validation from others. Work on yourself everyday ! work on  to try to become better and better not that you are not good enough right now, but that this world is huge and has so many issues going on that is not going anywhere soon and your story is just a tiny part of it so why not contribute your tiny share to a better world. A world of hopes a world of no judgments a world full of admiration and positivity a world where you and me are no different we are just souls wandering for vast knowledge this universe hold a world where everyone has a shelter a voice and most importantly themselves.
We can do this only if we stop thinking about the petty issues others have to say.