Will you be my valentine?
Usually around this year pressure is at its peak. If you are single then you feel more lonely and if you are dating someone you feel coerced to buy the best unique and never gifted before gift ignoring all the facts like what one actually needs or what could actually make their life smoother or the fact that none of this is a measuring scale of your love. We have certainly succeeded in making a superficial day an important validation for our emotions that we hold for specially our partners. But why? Why only our partners? Why gifting? Why only this day?
Don't be that person who needs a particular day to express their love for someone. Dont be that person who knows only one meaning of love . Dont be the person who needs society's validation infact their partners validation too (because if your partner genuinely loves you , you won't have to try to get validation) . Hold depth , broaden your horizon . Spread love and affection everyday not only to your partner but to everyone that you come across everyday. Pass a smile, be generous, be kind , be respectful. Dont believe only in receiving but also giving , gift people you love your faith , your understanding, your time , your trust. Then you wont need a day to strengthen your bond or to express your feelings .

What is a women empowerment?
Is it working at odd hours or working at a powerful position or working as a housewife?  In our daily lives we come across a lot of articles talking about it but I believe it is more of flackery than it was really about! This movement is  about the inner strength that every woman holds, the light of knowledge that can ignite the world with great spirits. It is more about choosing to be whatever they want to become even if it means homemaker. It is about embracing womanhood and encouraging and letting other women know too that they are worth it, even if they don't hold any qualified degree they still have a lot to offer to the coming generation because their experience says it all. Whether from giving birth to a baby or to getting married to a man and accepting a whole new world with a smile or to become a perfect mother or to become a strict parent she knows it all. This power is about not treating a women on mensuration any different instead showing respect to their spirit , about how they work with same stamina throughout even when they are having hormonal imbalance. This movement it not only restricted to education but also body type, a woman to be able to dress whatever way she wants, to choose any body type she wants, to get her hairs coloured or to have no hair at all. Everything should be her own choice and not something this society expects her to be like. People body slam women for not having thigh gaps or for having flabs of fat or stretch marks and still willing to wear swim suits. The society needs to stop pressurising women to be the perfect image because apart from the gender we are humans too! and darling we want to make mistakes a lot of them and learn from them not judged? But can a woman afford to make a mistake? will she be given another chance? a chance to not be so perfect?
Everyone wants to talk about powering woman but what about teaching not only men but some women too that woman can commit mistakes, they can be drunk at night but you are not supposed to take her advantage instead act sober and make her reach home safely, to stop looking at woman as a sex object and rather try to know her in depth, get to know her from the inside, the person she is not just her body, that raising a baby is not only her duty but his too, that adding someone's surname after their name is not only two words joined together but two relations that have to be equally balanced and to keep it balanced is his and hers duty. We are so much caught up in this movement that we fail to recognize the one in a million man that we might have met in our lives. This movement is not about hating a particular gender or fighting over who gets the best but about equality and it can only prevail if both the sides do their part.

Trying to fit in

Nobody tells you to be yourself, to be comfortable being you. They all try to make u fit into the rules or conditions this society has made for you. They expect you to look hot or to look decent  or to be intellectual or to be a topper or to be sophisticated and certainly they don't look for a change or regarded as imperfection.They fit u into a category of certain colour or gender  or religon and expect you to behave accordingly and somehow you are able to convince yourself that this is you! This how you should be or should feel like. If you had a heartbreak you should be sad or at rage, if u failed in academics you should feel sobby, feel bad about yourself. Nobody tells you to be not so sophisticated or to be crazy  or not to do certain stuff simply because you are not into it. As per them if you don’t agree to their norms which the so educated and know it all society has already built that are  so rigid that one can think of iron as flexible item but not the rules they got for you, you will be an example of imperfection at utmost. Don’t end up living a life which you did not choose for yourself which doesn’t consider your happiness. Is it worth giving up who you really are for something so small that doesn’t consider you as an individual but considers you as one of the sheeps in flock. Break the stereo type . Be weird be boring be entertaining be that not so sophisticated lady or that emotional man because after all we make the society not the society makes us.

Damaging oneself!

Most of us have the habit of over thinking and, now please dont say that you think real and practical scenarios because let us be real the stories you weave when you are deep into thinking didn't even existed untill you started thinking about your so called practical situations. Sitting idol lets think, lying down not sleepy lets think, got a situation to face lets think! we probably have this mindset that if we think deeper about our problems we will solve them effeciently and also the fact that thinking deep makes us wise! but let us be real, none of the above situation is helpful! why? because thinking your decisions through and thinking till you start thinking off topic are way two different things. You see when you are deep into thinking you give rise to various situations that would not even happen and are highly hypothetical and came to your mind probably because of the things you watch or see. None of it will help you in any way! here is why, firstly you are thinking of things that are not even real so high chances are they are not even gonna happen; secondly, you have a situaton to face and all you are doing is think and not work so high chances are you will end up making the problem bigger because you were busy solving the issues in your brain that did not ever happened; thirdly, when your current situation is not solved how will your future which you think you are taking care of be fine?and lastly you are damaging yourself in a way you don't even know yourself!
Now here is how to handle such situations, dont sit idle  hustle harder, make every second count not by thinking  but by doing things in short! work it out. When you have situations to face dont think about things that may happen as its consequence but face it! come up with alternative solutions and keep trying. When you are not sleepy then do something productive build yourself in that free time because let us be real when it comes upon building yourself you probably have never done that because you are here thinking of scenarios instead of working it out! Come out with things you want to work on about yourself. Time is not going to stop for anyone of us, so do not waste it by just thinking. Don't stop yourself from becoming the best version of yourself and let us be practical none of us are living perfect lives we all are fighting our own fights, not everytime is going to be a happening time which is why it is said that to die is easy but to live is hard , so now you have  a choice to make to yourself wether you want to kill every moment that you live by thinking or kill this life by standing up to situations and fighting your way through.

Perfecting Imperfection

From childhood it is embedded within us to chase after perfection, for instance when you get 9.5 your parents would ask you where did that 0.5 mark go? or in a relationship when as soon as the rough phase comes, we just start playing blame game and then blame it all upon the messy love theories for not having perfect relationship or when it comes to our career we chase after being at the top.
In this chase of life we often forget ourselves, we forget to live our lives. We spent most of our life being like our idols. We chase for perfection when being perfect is all about finding true selves, facing the rough phase, accepting failures and embracing the flaws. It is about to not blindly follow something because the society  expects you to be like it or trying hard to become like someone. Be who you are , wake up everyday and admire yourself, accept all the wrong decisions you made, stand up to face the  consequences. Stop running ,stop following something that society has already built  for you and just take a break. Just give some days to yourself ,discover your own self. It may sound uncanny like? who have I been living as ? it sounds funny to me too because I am like oh c'mon I bought that stuff according to my likes or I did so because I wanted to. But just think deeper, didn't  you chose certain subject because that is what you were expected to do. And I find it very judging because as soon as you stop living the way society expects you to all of a sudden you sound strange to them and insensible, which is why very few of us have the courage to become ourselves, to be proud about all those mistakes , those disappointing situations. We are ever ready to accept favourable results happily with a pride in fact we show it off!.Don't live a life that was made for you or expected of you, step out of the zone, live for yourself make your decisions! yes major ones too,make mistakes learn from them ,own it ! after all life is all about discovering our super complicated souls. And know this bad or good decisions you make learn from them, success or failure learn to take it with a pride, hustle but not according to what others have to say but as per yourself.

new year new me?

I have done this a couple of times taken  resolution that I am going to change myself or I am going to do this and not become that person I was or used to be. I mean tonnes of resolutions. It took me real long time to realise none of this matters no 1st January is going to be a new year or a new beginning for me until I realise from within that everyday can be a new day,every morning can  be  a bright morning if I want it to be. All I have to do is commit to myself, to fall completely in love  with myself to admire each and every imperfections I have ,to not find  new reasons everyday to love someone else instead become that someone else.All of this time I was investing myself on different things.I tried to find the missing piece of my puzzle in someone else's and I constantly failed, I failed terribly to make them happy or to be happy myself  and the day I stopped trying to do so they left, leaving me to think over and over again why would someone leave? just because I stopped trying so hard to make them happy? no it wasn't the reason. It was because I did not love myself. I did not realize that I was that missing piece of my puzzle, only I could make myself happy. Only I could fill in my insecurities. Nobody can love you until you love yourself nobody will respect you until you respect yourself people will tell you that you are fat, ugly , not lovable, not sweet, not caring and infinite things but nothing can affect you, if you know that you are perfect, even that broken piece that stays within you is beautiful,to take pride in failures, to embrace yourself , to be confident to show your crazy side. The day you start admiring yourself  everyday is going to be a new day every midnight is going to be new years midnight and then you will not have to wait for 31st December to find your new self or make new resolutions rather you will be discovering your new side every day of your life.Then everyday will add on to the chapter of your life.

Most of our lives we fight , we fight to win, to be successful none of us wants to fail or be rejected.
Everyone guides you how to not fail! how freely we talk about being happy , being successful, being at a great place.We take pride in discussing about our achievements, but what about failures? those dark nights? those rejections ,those heartbreaks.Why don't we feel free to talk about them?
What makes us stop? why are we afraid to talk about the path that made us who we are today! damaged or not things in the past shaped us! Failures was also a part of it. Why are we trying to hide it? why are we scared to tell that we failed that too terribly, that we made a lot of wrong choices, that we fell alot many times. Let me tell you there is freedom in accepting failure, there is peace in accepting it with a pride, to share failures too. Then only one will know that in spite of all the failures you survived that even when a part of you thought the boat is about to sunk you sailed it through, you didn't let it drown Nobody tells us that it is okay to fail , that it is perfectly normal to make wrong choices! but what is not normal is to regret those choices. Everyday we make various choices we choose to smile or to cry!( now you may think how can that be a choice? i never talked about the genuine smile!) we choose to trust someone, we choose to start a conversation! Now there will be days when someone will betray you and some days  you will betray someone. It will hurt you, but then at the end of the day life goes on and you have to understand that it is all a part of life and everyday adds on to the chapter of life , so add a new chapter "Experience". Don't give others the power to hurt you, to damage you, to affect your life! instead give them a power to teach you.Some of them can be teachers of dark nights while others can be teacher of sunshine.
It is important for you to know that this journey is long and it aint easy! there will be rough times, there will be storms , there will be dark days!
but at the end what will matter is that you survived
So don't just live to see success but also failures , because you will never know how the top feels until you hit rock bottom.