Well at first it does not come as a beautiful experience like endless nights of cribbing over the past, talking out to your closed ones about your ex partner and explaining why both of you were not fit for each other and list goes on! In short post break up is not a smooth ride because it comes with tonnes of decision makings which one is not ready to make.
It looks convenient to fall into the societal trap of never being single,yes you heard me right I am not saying that finding the right partner is wrong, but all I am saying is that we are so used to being with someone that we do not take time to process our lives.
Instead we hop onto from one relationship to another, we do not give ourselves the chance to heal, rather try to find someone else who could do it for us. That looks way more convenient. and why not? after all there is so many offers in the market I mean casual dating, serious relationship, one night hook ups or friends with benefits and fear not even people are also labeled as commodity, like the cute one, the handsome one, the sexy one, the hot one, the flirty one, the horny one and so you can like go out and pick any of the arrangement that suits you. Did you see what I did here? I just listed the most captivating world possible to you and it looked so fascinating and you might think to yourself oh yeas I have definitely done this or that. But here is the thing, this is like a vicious cycle it never ends and it ends up making your life repetitive and monotonous. You may ask why? , then give me the honors.
While moving on from one to another what you forget about is the real world problems. You are so caught up into your own life that you do not really think about anything! not even your real self!. I know this is confusing. What I mean is going on dates or movies or anything really, makes you want to dress best, to look best, to be a good at conversations, from one date to another or from one person to another you just forget about your real worth. I am not saying that trying to search for the right person is wrong, honestly I am all up for it.
But do not forget about yourself in the process, learn about yourself, know who you really are and do you even really like doing this or you are doing it because everyone else is doing it? do you want to end up living a life where high school problems take on your adult life and you miss out your own potential and ability to bring a change. To know what is going on in the world right now. I would be pretty honest with you when I was with someone I was a shallow person, I was so involved in it that I did not really care about what was happening around me or in fact in any part of the world and I do not blame anyone but myself for it. Being single gave me the time to know what a blessing and a responsibility it is to be a woman and how much there is to do in the world. This world does not need high school problems but needs a little bit of our time, if we could truly invest in it by helping other being kind to others being humble being true to our self and most importantly doing things that we really want to do.
Do not let the world bind you to make you do things that it calls normal do the extra ordinary be shameless and have the belief and trust upon your decisions. If you are having hard time finding the one to love then why do not you spread love to the people around you and be a support. I am pretty sure nobody will be damaged.
While moving on from one to another what you forget about is the real world problems. You are so caught up into your own life that you do not really think about anything! not even your real self!. I know this is confusing. What I mean is going on dates or movies or anything really, makes you want to dress best, to look best, to be a good at conversations, from one date to another or from one person to another you just forget about your real worth. I am not saying that trying to search for the right person is wrong, honestly I am all up for it.
But do not forget about yourself in the process, learn about yourself, know who you really are and do you even really like doing this or you are doing it because everyone else is doing it? do you want to end up living a life where high school problems take on your adult life and you miss out your own potential and ability to bring a change. To know what is going on in the world right now. I would be pretty honest with you when I was with someone I was a shallow person, I was so involved in it that I did not really care about what was happening around me or in fact in any part of the world and I do not blame anyone but myself for it. Being single gave me the time to know what a blessing and a responsibility it is to be a woman and how much there is to do in the world. This world does not need high school problems but needs a little bit of our time, if we could truly invest in it by helping other being kind to others being humble being true to our self and most importantly doing things that we really want to do.
Do not let the world bind you to make you do things that it calls normal do the extra ordinary be shameless and have the belief and trust upon your decisions. If you are having hard time finding the one to love then why do not you spread love to the people around you and be a support. I am pretty sure nobody will be damaged.
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