Love like never before

Love is unconditional, love is inspiring, love is hope, love is faith, love never dies , love never fades.Which is why it is the best feeling in the world, there is nothing like love. My love for my parents taught me the real meaning of love which is why I don't have romantic posts, not because I don't believe in romance or I have some heartbreaking story. For me love is old fashioned it is not about heartbreaks, lies , betrayal but about sacrifices, constant support, about happy endings where we have so much to learn. It is surely nothing like valentine's day rather it is about mutual understandings about failing on expectations but then love is all about second chances isn't it

Also with time I realised that love is natural , you cannot ask or request anyone to love you back just because you love them. Then why are investing time on it I am not asking you to stop loving anyone what I am asking you is to love your closed ones but most importantly love yourself more. Do not forget to admire yourself for all the flaws you have . Love doesn't has to be romantic but it can surely be motivating. The power lies with you. To live with a broken heart trying to forcefully fill it with other or to mend that broken heart with all the love you can.

Chapter 3

Diary Of Not So Complicated Girl

Thinking about her day,  she thought to herself why is it everyone obssessed with money? why do I have to bow down and treat everyone with respect whereas they treat me harshly. Why me and my family have to be ashamed of who we are and what we do for living or where we live and what we eat?
The little girl Kiara thought to herself. I hate this world she said and went back to sleep.
The very next day she went to the doctor's clinic where her mother worked. As soon as she reached there she stood outside the clinic as she had strict rules regarding the posh clinic and its clients. So little girl Kiara stood next to the gate under the unbearable heat of the sun again cursing the world and its rules.Playing with her hairs she caught herself looking at the huge black car and the most posh woman she had ever seen Dr.Zubeda. Staring at her she failed to realise that Miss.Posh Doctor had caught her looking at the car and her shoes, Zubeda stopped and asked her if she was lost and to that Kiara innocently replied about the rules her mother had told her, listening to the girl Zubeda smiled and held her hand and took her inside the clinic. As soon as she entered the clinic Kiara's mother was surprised and got worried if her little girl was in some sort of trouble, reading the face of the cleaning lady Zubeda said, don't worry I caught this cute looking princess smiling and I could not resist but to bring her in. Listening to her Kiara felt loved and belonged for the very first time, never had someone so rich treated her like this, may be the world was not that of a bad place she thought to herself. Why is that nobody ask anyone how rich they are from heart ? or what do they wear in their manners or where do they go to find respect or live in peace? where do people earn respect? why does my mother have to respect everyone and in return get nothing but insult. Zubeda was struck listening to her words and to see how every word she said held depth.
Zubeda took the girl and made her sit on her lap and holding her hand said ...
To Be CONTINUED

Uncomfortably Comfortable

I spent years of my precious life thinking that I was not perfect! Being uncomfortable if I am not able to answer in the class, to not get scores in tests, to have a belly instead of abs, to have stretch marks instead of smooth skin or to be so short that every single person looked like Goliath to me. Like really! I could not figure out a way to stop this feeling, to not feel unhappy with whoever I was. I somehow had found my idols in this world and was blindly in hopes of following them to become like them. And to be honest there is nothing wrong to become like your idol or even to try to become like them. What is wrong,  is to trying to replicate them, you see all of us are different from one another yes ! you heard me right billions of human present on the surface of earth all are different from one another we can match certain qualities but the degree of those qualities will be different. You have to understand that the qualities of your idol might be something you want to possess but you have to imbibe them with your persona. Give it your own shape only then you can become the best version of yourself. I tried to be perfect whether it was studies, looks, social life or family but I failed terribly in all of the areas of my life and it was not because I was not trying but because I was trying to mould myself to become a person I was not. I tried to fit myself in the society to become friendly, to become obedient , to become a scholar but all of these qualities were not just me. Now you would think why? Let me help you why, for me becoming perfect was becoming like someone I thought was perfect and not myself. I was trying hard but I was trying hard to replicate a figure, which ended up making me uncomfortable in many areas of my life. It took me a long time to understand that becoming like someone did not mean to copy them but to learn from them the art of acknowledging yourself the way you are. To accept yourself , your flaws, your power and trying everyday to enhance them, thriving to become better.
It has got nothing to do with your clothes, color , stretch marks, looks, scores ,social life or financial aid. It was about how you reflected your values, how you helped a person in need especially when they were a stranger to you. It is about being yourself and not being ashamed ( NOT ASHAMED, old post reference) . Everything you are is what defines you as a person be it your failures/success, beauty/stretch marks, average student/ scholar. It is who you are and to be comfortable with whoever you are is an important step if you want to discover yourself.

Days Of A Not So Complicated Girl

Introduction

It was a casual day just like any other the sun was going down and the moon was coming up and as she lied down on her bed she realised the times she had been lied upon so all of a sudden she sits thinking that she would never be lied upon. And started to think to herself if she had done this this , was there a chance that she wouldn't be left alone? what could be the possibility for her to be not alone just like right now in the mere future, what if this was the reality of her life with which she had to live for the rest of her life. She looked out of the window near her bed and gazed to the stars and thought to herself this is the same sky every human on this earth is sharing with me the stars the moon the clouds then why cant someone share their time and interests with me? why in spite of having so many social media platforms she was all alone and in spite of having thousands of followers friends she did not have someone to talk to but herself? was it the beginning of her adulthood? or her inability of understanding the world.

Chapter 2

Survived another night and welcoming a new morning. Even when the sun was at its best the light did not feel bright enough to lighten the room, with one eyes opened and the other closed  she woke up that morning from the sleepless night she had, she sighed morning again! It almost felt like the light of the sun was causing pain in her eyes and the hustle of the world was unbearable to watch. Somehow watching people made her feel more lonely than she was, however she had to live by the day! Sticking to her routine and following it blindly another day passed , and Alas! once again night had approached and she was feeling more of herself and there was sudden energy and happiness that was all over her mind.
Looking at the moon and the darkness that came by it she thought to herself how can anyone be scared of the dark? isn't darkness the only thing in the world that soothes you, that gives you peace, in the dark everything is still, everything is beautiful. Thinking that she felt petty on others who could not understand the beauty of the night time. As the clock was ticking she began to think of all the things that had happened during the day and somehow every detail of the day started to come back to her even the ones she thought was of no importance, and as she listened to those repeated songs of the same playlist feeling every word by the heart ,she said to herself Zubeda its no big deal! people are meant to be this complicated it is alright if you don't understand them.
As she was trying hard to console herself but deep down she felt she was at fault, that may be it wasn't others this whole time but her. But then why didn't she change herself? was she too stubborn to change for good? or was she too weak to stand up for good?

Spreading smiles
In this vast universe of diverse living animals how often do we come across the human species? and then to not to complicate it further how often do we come across the different kinds of human sapiens?
Now you will wonder what? let me take it step by step, as everyday comes and goes with your choice or without it you come across hundreds of people, now you would think I talk to only handful of people in a day or I don't think so or what is this girl talking about? but if you come out of your zone and look to the right and the left to the skies and the ground your feet is touching every particle of this world is connected to the aura of the person that passed by it. We never see it we never know them but we can feel it, just like you can know when you sit at some table in a fast food chain you always have two kinds of tables either clean or either still having the remains of the food someone ate there before you , in our busy lives we might not consider it as something that catches our attention but definitely this surely tells about the aura of the person who has been there before. We knowingly or unknowingly affect others even  the small things you do that you think is nothing, somehow it is like the decision you make everyday either to influence someone to do better or to do worst. You might not know but your small gesture like offering someone needy your seat or helping someone cross the road or just telling someone that they can do it or telling someone they deserve to be happy or to offer someone water who knows how long this list can go? but the bottom line is everyday when you wake up till the moment you fall asleep you make choices, choice to wish others good morning, choices to make someone smile, choices that you don't know can affect someone can give a ray of hope to someone. You don't know if the person sitting next to you in the train or standing in the queue at some fast food chain or someone around you might be going through a real hard time may be depression may be your act of generosity, kindness ,thankfulness brightness positivity ignites a tiny flame of hope in them to do better, to think positive, to have faith , to believe in themselves. So as your days passes by don't forget to be not rude, we all can have bad days bad times but don't you remember watching a kid enjoying his freedom in the rain or an elder man giving you blessing or some stranger passing you a wide smile wishing you a good day gave you the strength to live by those times.

Will you be my valentine?
Usually around this year pressure is at its peak. If you are single then you feel more lonely and if you are dating someone you feel coerced to buy the best unique and never gifted before gift ignoring all the facts like what one actually needs or what could actually make their life smoother or the fact that none of this is a measuring scale of your love. We have certainly succeeded in making a superficial day an important validation for our emotions that we hold for specially our partners. But why? Why only our partners? Why gifting? Why only this day?
Don't be that person who needs a particular day to express their love for someone. Dont be that person who knows only one meaning of love . Dont be the person who needs society's validation infact their partners validation too (because if your partner genuinely loves you , you won't have to try to get validation) . Hold depth , broaden your horizon . Spread love and affection everyday not only to your partner but to everyone that you come across everyday. Pass a smile, be generous, be kind , be respectful. Dont believe only in receiving but also giving , gift people you love your faith , your understanding, your time , your trust. Then you wont need a day to strengthen your bond or to express your feelings .

What is a women empowerment?
Is it working at odd hours or working at a powerful position or working as a housewife?  In our daily lives we come across a lot of articles talking about it but I believe it is more of flackery than it was really about! This movement is  about the inner strength that every woman holds, the light of knowledge that can ignite the world with great spirits. It is more about choosing to be whatever they want to become even if it means homemaker. It is about embracing womanhood and encouraging and letting other women know too that they are worth it, even if they don't hold any qualified degree they still have a lot to offer to the coming generation because their experience says it all. Whether from giving birth to a baby or to getting married to a man and accepting a whole new world with a smile or to become a perfect mother or to become a strict parent she knows it all. This power is about not treating a women on mensuration any different instead showing respect to their spirit , about how they work with same stamina throughout even when they are having hormonal imbalance. This movement it not only restricted to education but also body type, a woman to be able to dress whatever way she wants, to choose any body type she wants, to get her hairs coloured or to have no hair at all. Everything should be her own choice and not something this society expects her to be like. People body slam women for not having thigh gaps or for having flabs of fat or stretch marks and still willing to wear swim suits. The society needs to stop pressurising women to be the perfect image because apart from the gender we are humans too! and darling we want to make mistakes a lot of them and learn from them not judged? But can a woman afford to make a mistake? will she be given another chance? a chance to not be so perfect?
Everyone wants to talk about powering woman but what about teaching not only men but some women too that woman can commit mistakes, they can be drunk at night but you are not supposed to take her advantage instead act sober and make her reach home safely, to stop looking at woman as a sex object and rather try to know her in depth, get to know her from the inside, the person she is not just her body, that raising a baby is not only her duty but his too, that adding someone's surname after their name is not only two words joined together but two relations that have to be equally balanced and to keep it balanced is his and hers duty. We are so much caught up in this movement that we fail to recognize the one in a million man that we might have met in our lives. This movement is not about hating a particular gender or fighting over who gets the best but about equality and it can only prevail if both the sides do their part.